It is never easy to realize that someone or something is sucking your soul out of you. Walking away is never easy, but if your gut is telling you to do it, then follow.
Playing leader in your own life is sometimes not the best thing- for others. When you stick up for yourself and realize that something or someone is a constant pain in your side, it is a glorious feeling.
When People are the Issue
Why is it that we sometimes keep bad influences in our lives? We open the door to our heart and mind and welcome them in with a smile, when their only intention is to vandalize once they are in. They rob from us emotionally and drain our batteries after every interaction. We are comparative to a punching bag that continues to take blows over-and-over.
It is the people-pleaser in us. Pleasing is not bad when it does not do harm to you. It is important to be a warm, kind person and be helpful when you can, but not to let someone take advantage of you.
We make excuses. We tell ourselves stupid reasons on why they should stay in our lives. We let ourselves believe that things will get better when in reality time has shown us that it has gotten worse.
Confronting the Issue
Standing up for yourself is the most important self-love practice you can practice in your life. Allowing yourself to be seen, and to not be walked on, is so important to becoming a better version of yourself. Confronting those in your life that you know in your gut has been using you, will be difficult. They will probably try and be manipulative in some way, or they might surprise you and apologize- and mean it. Do not be naïve once you bring these issues to surface level. Stay strong and demand the respect you believe that you should be shown.
When Life Throws You Random Obstacles
Have you ever been in a situation that just keeps throwing bad vibes your way? You sit there and try to fix like you have done so many times before. However, patch jobs only last so long.
When things happen in your life that negatively impact you, how do you respond? Do you try and work through it, or do you throw your hands up and exclaim, “I AM OUT!” Negative obstacles are more than likely out of your control, why, because you only control yourself. They can be short-term or long-term.
Short-term obstacles can be trying to navigate through the deep waters that drama can sometimes put you in. Do not be fooled though, drama can be a long-term obstacle too. At a certain point, it is best to walk-away. Figuring out how to do so, is the dilemma. Sometimes, you have to make decisions that are uncomfortable now, to be able to wade out of the water. Hopefully, once you have reached a conclusion on how to respond, things get better.
Long-term obstacles are situations that seem to never go away. Sometimes we have to realize that things will be better in the future. We have to have hope while being in the middle of whatever it is we are dealing with. We have to be optimistic yet continue to instill that piece of realist that we do not want to listen to sometimes.
Confronting the Issue
Both short-term and long-term obstacles can have a profound impact on you. When something negative arises in our lives, it is important to self-assess. Important questions to ask ourselves:
- How am I going to let this affect my mental well-being?
- Will I let myself get engrossed in this and let it control me?
- Will I stand up for myself and walk away if needed?
- How long can I honestly handle this?
Walking away from someone or a situation that brings you no value is not cowardly. It is simply you knowing your worth. Respect is earned, not handed out like Sunday’s coupons.
Danae Decker 