A person can find many loves within their life. The love for a passion, a career, or the love for another person.
Love is defined as an intense feeling of deep affection. A feeling that I can only assume makes the most ordinary person, feel wonderful things.
Passion. Not necessarily the burning feeling you feel when you see someone you have deep affection for. I’m describing the hyper-focused feeling you get when you are so drawn into an activity or hobby. You literally let the activity you’re participating in, draw you in with its natural rhythm.
For me, I feel love when I write. Especially when I’m so focused on writing a scene within a fiction story. I let the scene unravel itself in my mind, and let myself fall in love with the story. When I feel like I struck gold with the words my finger’s type, the feeling is pure magic.
Take a moment to reflect on a passion in your life you’ve let yourself fall in love with. What does that passion bring to your life? How does it make you feel?
“If you love what you do you’ll never work a day in your life.” – Marc Anthony
Finding a career or job that you happily wake each morning for, is a gift. Spending time accomplishing tasks you enjoy, while getting paid, score for you.
I have had one job, where I loved every part of it. That job was when I was a pre-teen. I loved on animals in a no-kill shelter. I made friends with almost every animal there. My favorite dog, I would have taken home in an instant, was Dempsey. He was a white boxer who became protective of me. Often times he would lean up against me while I sat- to ensure he had me trapped.
I am not hinting that I have not loved parts of my jobs later in my life after that. They have afforded me to pursue other new found interests that I am grateful for. There was just something so pure about knowing for sure- that I was making a difference. Sometimes animals are better to be around than people. Fact.
So, when it comes to choosing how you are going to put food on the table, what is your approach? Do you just accept a job that you know you are not going to fully enjoy, but on the other hand- affording rent is kind of cool?
There is a silent, sad tragedy for some people not ever finding their true love in a career or job. Or, they know what it is- but are either too timid to pursue it, or it is not a financially secure option.
Channel your thoughts of what you wanted to be when you grew up. What did 10 year old you want to be? Is that something that you can still see yourself wanting to do? It is important to not limit your thoughts or desires to real world realities.
Obviously, I get it. Some people will have a harder time pursuing their dreams. But, it doesn’t mean you have to fully let go of it. For example: if you can not be a professional athlete- coach a local team. It may not be exactly the same, but it allows you to stay within the game. Even if that means it is on a different level of skill.
“Find someone who is proud to have you, scared to lose you, fights for you, appreciates you, respects you, cares for you, and loves you unconditionally.” – Motivation app
Finding someone in your life that you love is a tremendous feeling. I am also not limiting this topic. You can love your best friend, your mom, grandparents. No matter what, when you love someone- you know that they would be there for you in a heartbeat-if the feeling is mutual.
Loving someone as they are, flaws and all, is tricky. However, when you are able to see a person as they are- the flaws become less noticeable. When you can look someone in the eye: you see the kindness, the caring-nature, the spunk that you appreciate. When you know where you stand with someone; you feel the love.
“Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.”
– Motivation app
When the above quote popped up on my phone like the app does at 9am every morning, I am pretty sure I agreed with it and probably said, “damnit, that is right.”
Being someone’s option, again, does not matter the relationship-type, is never a good feeling. Not being accepted by someone that you are either wired to automatically love, or grow to love- straight-up sucks.
When you give your all to a person, and they continue to hurt you, it can wear you down. You start believing that you are not good enough or will not ever be. Remember this: if someone you love is not giving back- and just continues to take- that is not love- that is a narcissist.
Loving someone is such a broad category. There is just so much that can be covered and reflected on. Believe me- I have watched too many YouTube videos and have read too many articles on it.
I think the at the end of the day, the most important thing about loving someone or being loved by someone- is if they show up. The saying, “I want to be someone, someone can rely on, and I want to find someone I can rely on,” is the most reasonable quote ever.
Love takes many forms. Finding love in multiple forms is something to be grateful for.
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Danae Decker 