Take Back Your Power

I think a necessary skill to have in life is the ability to see a situation for how it truly is/was. 

At some point or another, in some way, shape, or form- we feel as if we are given up on or we know with valid reason we are given up on. 

Conversations slowly fade, jobs end, the moments we spent with people or at a place slowly become nothing but a memory in the past.  

The feeling of not being good enough, or the questions of “what could I have done better?” linger in your mind. You don’t feel like you can escape them. 

You try and show yourself fake confidence and tell yourself over and over that it’s their loss. You know it’s their loss- but you still doubt yourself at times.

Sometimes it’s believable enough and you quickly or eventually move on. 

But moving on doesn’t mean that the PTSD completely disappears. The memories are triggered even when you are in the happiest of times. 

When you’ve been given up on, you learn to react with intensity or not understand your reaction at all. 

You learn to question your actions and hopefully call yourself out. When past, ugly memories of someone or something shutting you out of its life surface- it is then you must see the situation for how it truly was, or for how it truly is. 

You need to acknowledge that the rose-colored glasses were there. You need to realize that a career choice should not have operated how it did. You need to realize that all places or people have their pros and cons- but not to let the bad seeds fertilize your present-day lawn.

You are the one in control now. You are the one who has fought to get to the place you are today. If it’s not the place you still want to be- recognize the distance you have come. 

Don’t give power to those who don’t deserve the recognition. 

When you feel the anxiety rise in you because of something that happened in the past similar to what you are facing- learn to recognize it- recite it out loud- and discourage yourself from acting out in a negative manner. 

In that moment, it is you that should break up with the memories that haunt you. That bring you PTSD. Don’t give them power. Know they may occasionally linger, but they don’t dictate how you live your life.

Take back your power.