Vibe-ing with Myself

Stop trying to control everything. There, I said it.

I used to be that person who tried to control things I probably should not try to control. A. Because it is most likely none of my business and B. It makes you more toxic.

One day, I just grew tired of it. Tired of giving a s**t when I did not gain anything in return. Tired of always feeling like it was my duty to always be that person to go out of my way to be the helpful one.

Now, I like being a helpful person. However, I was running myself too thin with acts of kindness. I know, sounds really full of myself, but hear me out.

I started to wake up a bit when someone kept coming to me for all their relationship problems. Someone I had been too invested with to be that person for them. But, I swallowed my pride and gave my advice like I always had.

One day, I realized how uncomfortable the whole situation was making me. So, I looked out for myself once- and said good-bye to that situation in more ways than one.

I was out thrifting and a woman was yelling as she appeared to get her cart stuck in the bathroom door. I only say appeared because I briefly glanced her direction while walking an aisle.

That night, I was mentally exhausted for some reason. I am a big believer in me-time, and my full intention was to go in there and be alone in my head while perusing.

I was already halfway across the store and I kept hearing “Mam!” being shouted. Something in me said, “No, I don’t have it in me tonight to help.” So, I did not.

I contemplated that night whether or not I was an a** for not helping. I don’t think I was because I needed to remember that I only have so much bandwidth to give out.

I don’t save the world. I need to value the time I have and who I give it too.

Vibe-ing with myself is a new concept I am working on for myself. It means that you should not give too much of yourself away and to remember yourself in every sort of life interaction.

I think too often that people forget about themselves. I have learned that it is not healthy to always be giving to others and not giving to yourself.

So, in what ways should you vibe with yourself better? Because you too, are important in every life interaction you have.