A woman sits at the far end of a restaurant sobbing because she just let someone else take a piece of her heart away. A piece of her light.
A man sits in a bar, banging his fist onto the bar top, and his heart feels as used as the stained, tattered bar rag that is used to clean it.
Why do we do this to ourselves? What do we do to correct it? No matter who we are, where we come from- we have all been there. We open up so much sometimes- that we lose sight of our limits. We lose sight of the real purpose of the relationships with different people.
People take advantage of nice people. Nice people will most likely let it keep happening, because they’re nice. They let the user continue to wear them down, much like the used bar rag analogy.
What makes a person stop? What makes a user realize that they are a toxic person who is overstepping boundaries? Do they even realize that they are creating havoc for the used?
The person that is being used over and over again, must say enough is enough. They must take directive action in their life and realize that this is not a healthy way to live. Allowing themselves to feel used.
Sometimes, a person can be so nice to someone and over-extend themselves so much- they can become manic. Manic at trying to be the absolute best. They try to be an extreme people pleaser. If the other person keeps ignoring them, and no validation is given, the manic’s mind feels like the speed of a shark frenzy.
The manic’s mind kicks into hyperdrive, asking themselves what they have done wrong. When in reality, most likely, little to nothing wrong.
A person who has become so dismissed in life for their kindness or over-kindness, can become jaded. If this has happened to you, stop it.
Stop blaming yourself. Take some responsibility for who you are exerting your energy on. Be aware of your limits and know your boundaries. I do not care how ugly of a person you have become. How ugly your heart has chosen to become. Don’t close yourself off because one or two users have come and hopefully gone from your life. There are so many more people out there to build different types of relationships and friendships with. Focus on the possibility.
The great thing about you being in your body, you get to choose how to control most parts of it. You get to decide if you want to be an ugly person when it feels like too many people have used you.
Let your light shine. You are a soul who has earned the right to act authentic to themselves.
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