Forgiveness is not for the weary. Not for the weak. To truly forgive, one has to be strong. One has to know that they are better for moving along. Moving away from a cliff’s edge.
One has to rise in the morning and face their puffy face from the past night’s cry. It’s not crying because their weak- it’s crying that makes them stronger. Make them realize that they were never feeble- they have always been mighty.
They have to realize that the love they give to those that they come into contact with- May not always be reciprocated with how it should be. That is okay. It doesn’t make you clingy to pour your love out- for it to be denied at the door. You should not have to force someone to like or love you. You alone- should be enough.
It’s important to check someone’s intentions at the door. Stopping someone at your mind and heart’s door to check their love I.D. and the way they communicate is straight logic.
Little Cupid’s shooting arrows into your chest to later leave only traces of scars are the habit loop we are trying to avoid.
Sometimes, our greatest lessons learned are from the people we thought should have been in our corner. They taught us resilience, and they showed us that not all people are out for only the sake of good in our lives.
When craters are left behind for us to fill in the dirt- they need to check themselves before they set fire to someone else’s mind or heart.
Grudges can be held- but why hold on when you can kick them out? Why hold on when you can extinguish the flame when they set you ablaze? Grudges only make one’s mind and soul sick with the constant reminders of past battles and surprise attacks.
Letting go is hard, especially when one has been hurt. Hurt so deep that they feel like they can never move on- never feel the light they were denied by the looming lighting storm that never seemed to clear away.
Forgiveness is something we all need to learn to pursue. Chase it with conviction- but most importantly- always chase it with self-love in mind.
The scars that were left either mental or physical remind us of all the good traits they obviously lacked. We may have lacked some too. But that does not give right to be treated unfairly, be wronged, or be abused. We all have our faults and that is something we all need to remember.
But as we forgive. We will never forget.
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Danae Decker 